Leave me the fuck alone
No hey's, no babe, no wow look at those tits
Don't "compliment" me, I already know I look good.
Don't look me up & down like you'd devour me whole
I am not a tasty snack, I am a person.
And yes I've done the victim blaming bullshit
But no I do not bring it on myself.
My hair is not the damn problem
My outfit is not the damn problem
You are the goddamn problem
Leave me
The fuck
Alone
Thursday, 30 January 2014
Monday, 27 January 2014
On what I once was (a poem)
I was once called ugly
The same people now call me beautiful
Forgetting that I'm still the same person
My growth was stunted
I look the same but perceptions changed
Who's to say they won't again
I was once called stupid
The same people now say I am so well read
Forgetting that I'm still the same person
My growth was stunted
I think the same but perceptions changed
Who's to say they won't again
I was once broken into little pieces
The same people now laud my strength
Forgetting that they damaged a person
My growth was stunted
I'm not the same
That person bleeds out
I can't keep them in
The same people now call me beautiful
Forgetting that I'm still the same person
My growth was stunted
I look the same but perceptions changed
Who's to say they won't again
I was once called stupid
The same people now say I am so well read
Forgetting that I'm still the same person
My growth was stunted
I think the same but perceptions changed
Who's to say they won't again
I was once broken into little pieces
The same people now laud my strength
Forgetting that they damaged a person
My growth was stunted
I'm not the same
That person bleeds out
I can't keep them in
On a round up of links #21
Shit they say to sex workers!
Melissa Harris Perry on becoming aware of the plight of trans people
Queer critique of Blue is the warmest colour
To all women who have ever been told to quiet down
The trouble with Violeta
Tilly Grove on Sexting
Breaking up with white people
Suey Park on Not Your Asian Sidekick
The politics of skin lightening
Good comic about white privilege
Stop fawning over male feminists
http://lolmythesis.com/
MONKEYS!!!
Monday, 20 January 2014
On a round up of links #20
Mia & Ronan Farrow says what we're all thinking (TW abuse)
Thousands in court over Bedroom tax
Double standards & racism in how we judge music
Immigration detainee died in handcuffs
Russell Brand deserves no praise
Anti Blackness in high street fashion brands
Turns out Tina Fey is kind of anti women
5 things more likely to happen to you than being falsely accused of rape
Oh Stonewall =( =( =(
Great piece on the SoHo raids by Rupert Everett
The names they gave me
Thousands in court over Bedroom tax
Double standards & racism in how we judge music
Immigration detainee died in handcuffs
Russell Brand deserves no praise
Anti Blackness in high street fashion brands
Turns out Tina Fey is kind of anti women
5 things more likely to happen to you than being falsely accused of rape
Oh Stonewall =( =( =(
Great piece on the SoHo raids by Rupert Everett
The names they gave me
Saturday, 18 January 2014
On Barbie vs He-Man
So I've been seeing this post circulating around Facebook. It's about how feminists have a go about Barbie being an unrealistic standard of beauty without mentioning the pedestal of hyper masculinity that is He-Man.
The irony being of course that the post does not reflect on the fact that both toys posit white skin as the highest beauty standard one should aspire for.
It also misses the fact that though hyper masculinity is indeed harmful, Barbie's life that is pushed on women is one of being pretty so to get the man and live in their big pink house with their big pink car. Whereas He-Man gets to go around saving the world and be considered a hero. Nothing wrong with women living in nice houses and being pretty at all but I'd rather that not be pushed as the one and only thing we're allowed to aspire to.
Men must give up the notion that they must always be the centre of the narrative. The fact that they insist on being so in FEMINISM (the clue my friends is in the name) is quite frankly ludicrous. Feminism should at all times centre women. Feminism does fail in many cases. It fails WOC, Trans women, non binary people, sex workers, working class women and disabled (both visibly and invisibly so) women. I am not concerned with whether it fails men as it is NOT ABOUT YOU!
But you know, soz you're butt hurt about not looking like He-Man.
The irony being of course that the post does not reflect on the fact that both toys posit white skin as the highest beauty standard one should aspire for.
It also misses the fact that though hyper masculinity is indeed harmful, Barbie's life that is pushed on women is one of being pretty so to get the man and live in their big pink house with their big pink car. Whereas He-Man gets to go around saving the world and be considered a hero. Nothing wrong with women living in nice houses and being pretty at all but I'd rather that not be pushed as the one and only thing we're allowed to aspire to.
Men must give up the notion that they must always be the centre of the narrative. The fact that they insist on being so in FEMINISM (the clue my friends is in the name) is quite frankly ludicrous. Feminism should at all times centre women. Feminism does fail in many cases. It fails WOC, Trans women, non binary people, sex workers, working class women and disabled (both visibly and invisibly so) women. I am not concerned with whether it fails men as it is NOT ABOUT YOU!
But you know, soz you're butt hurt about not looking like He-Man.
Monday, 13 January 2014
On a round up of links #19
A great piece by Sam Ambreen with some guests
This is a few years old but always relevant.
Just go ahead and read everything on this list.
and this list too!
The closing of Fire stations in London is such a bad idea.
For your protection
Okwonga poem about privilege
Explaining white privilege to a broke white person.
Next up are a few links on the Mark Duggan verdict.
http://storify.com/humbleetc/harrystopes-on-duggan-inquest
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/jan/09/mark-duggan-verdict-relations-police
http://samambreen.wordpress.com/2014/01/09/the-police-murdered-mark-duggan/
Some spoken word.
A great interview with Reni Eddo - Lodge
And finally some cats where they shouldn't be
This is a few years old but always relevant.
Just go ahead and read everything on this list.
and this list too!
The closing of Fire stations in London is such a bad idea.
For your protection
Okwonga poem about privilege
Explaining white privilege to a broke white person.
Next up are a few links on the Mark Duggan verdict.
http://storify.com/humbleetc/harrystopes-on-duggan-inquest
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/jan/09/mark-duggan-verdict-relations-police
http://samambreen.wordpress.com/2014/01/09/the-police-murdered-mark-duggan/
Some spoken word.
A great interview with Reni Eddo - Lodge
And finally some cats where they shouldn't be
Monday, 6 January 2014
On friendzoning someone (a poem)
I once friendzoned a boy.
A hetero extremely sexual boy.
A boy who claimed to love me.
Without ever having spoken to me.
He was sweet and I thought loyal.
I gave him my friendship and treasured what I thought his.
Until he told me he loved me and I declined.
His sadness was apparent and everyone blamed me
I owed him....me.
He was a nice guy.
We stayed what I thought friends until....
one night I kissed him in inebriation.
And I did indeed love him.
As a friend.
But apparently I owed him.....me.
When he met a girl who would give him everything he was owed
I was pushed aside and non existent
even though his friendship meant the world to me.
My heart broken.
My soul broken.
My trust broken
but that did not matter.
Because I OWED HIM....ME!!!!
I OWED HIM MY SEX
MY KISSES
MY BODY
Regardless of what I felt....I owed him.
Me.
A hetero extremely sexual boy.
A boy who claimed to love me.
Without ever having spoken to me.
He was sweet and I thought loyal.
I gave him my friendship and treasured what I thought his.
Until he told me he loved me and I declined.
His sadness was apparent and everyone blamed me
I owed him....me.
He was a nice guy.
We stayed what I thought friends until....
one night I kissed him in inebriation.
And I did indeed love him.
As a friend.
But apparently I owed him.....me.
When he met a girl who would give him everything he was owed
I was pushed aside and non existent
even though his friendship meant the world to me.
My heart broken.
My soul broken.
My trust broken
but that did not matter.
Because I OWED HIM....ME!!!!
I OWED HIM MY SEX
MY KISSES
MY BODY
Regardless of what I felt....I owed him.
Me.
On a round up of links #18
Stavvers = Lucifer :3
Drone strikes in Yemen
Trudy on Beyonce's new album.
Stavvers on her white privilege.
After Womans hour.
White feminists rejecting intersectionality.
More thoughts on Beyonce's new album.
Forced deportations in Sweden
Nazi activity increases in Sweden
Louise Mensch and her gross display of white privilege
Laverne Cox creating a documentary about CeCe McDonald
A year in review.
The trouble with passing privilege
Drone strikes in Yemen
Trudy on Beyonce's new album.
Stavvers on her white privilege.
After Womans hour.
White feminists rejecting intersectionality.
More thoughts on Beyonce's new album.
Forced deportations in Sweden
Nazi activity increases in Sweden
Louise Mensch and her gross display of white privilege
Laverne Cox creating a documentary about CeCe McDonald
A year in review.
The trouble with passing privilege
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